I won't pretend to understand why moms are SO FREAKING MEAN to each other, but I can help with the "Soccer Mom Smokey Eye" - meaning you'll look sexier than normal but can still to go soccer practice without (too much) drama.
Whether or not you can, sometimes it's fun to challenge yourself to mix it up. Either way, I've pulled together a little video (less than four minutes - you can do it) showing you how to get a lovely look even without the advantage of a good set of brushes.